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Oh hai, LJ...it's been a while.

It's been more than a year, and some things changed a LOT in that time, and very unexpectedly. 

It seems that I've found myself a boyfriend. After being alone for almost ten years, with spurts of "relationships" (put into quotes, because after the shit I was put through, I can now look back at them, and realize that what those were, were NOT relationships), it seems that I have found someone.  Or more like HE found ME. 

He is no stranger to me, for the most part.  I met him many years ago, in the Realms, as someone named Lavender.  I didn't get to know him in game very well, but I do remember talking with him from time to time, and gained a few monkeys from him (I won't get into that now).  But he didn't really play for very long, and I never had a chance to really converse with him outside of events.  But as it turned out, he and I have several friends in common.  So we'd comment on the same people's statuses on Facebook, and would talk from time to time on FB Messenger, giving each other a hard time.  Then last spring, I got down to the Steampunk City event in Waltham, MA, and FINALLY bought myself a new corset, which was exactly the same one I'd bought the last time.  But I hadn't had an opportunity to wear it.  Skip ahead several weeks, and one Saturday, he and I are chatting, going on about things and nothing, and we got on to talking about Goth clubs and whatnot.  We'd realized that Jaded was that evening.  I hadn't been to a Jaded event, since my old corset was out of commission, and if I was to go, I wanted to look appropriate. Dressing merely in all black would not suffice, so I hadn't gone.  But now, I had a brandy-new corset.  He hadn't been to a Jaded event, either.  So he asked if I'd want to go. I said sure!  He offered to help me with my corset, and offered to come up to Manchester to pick me up. I declined the ride, since it seemed silly for him to come all the way up here to get me, and Jaded was down in Lowell, where he was, and said it just made more sense if I headed down to his place instead.  He asked how long I could stay out, and I told him that as long as I made it to Jack's birthday party the next morning, it'd be no biggie if I was out all night. He then says, "So, not all that late then," and I reiterated what I'd said. We finally exchanged phone numbers, I got his address, and went to get ready.  Holy hell, I had a date!! An honest-to-goodness DATE!!
I was so excited about actually going on a date, that I was actually scared for a little bit.  It felt foreign. I couldn't remember the last time I had been on an actual date.  I figured that the last time I'd been on one, it was before I was with Teresa.  So a very long time indeed.
So I get myself as ready as I could, sans corset.  I threw a few things in a bag and headed down to his place. Once there, we got to talking, my nervousness hopefully not TOO obvious (I'd even told him that when I'm nervous, I tend to babble.  He laughed.).  After about an hour and a half of talking, we FINALLY finished getting ready and headed out.  Jaded was pretty good.  Saw a few familiar faces (always good!!), and had some laughs.  It was the first time I can remember that I was attracting attention because of something OTHER than the cleavage my corset had created (my blinky hair falls got more attention!!).  At some point during the evening, he admitted he was interested in me.  It was all I could do to not look all around, to see if someone was standing behind me, and go "Me? Wait...ME??  You sure you mean ME?  You're kidding, right?"  I was just shy of dumbfounded.  Was this actually happening to ME? We headed back to his place, and he helped me out of my corset (another job that I can't quite do by myself). I changed clothes, and we settled on his couch to continue the conversations we'd been having.  We ended up snuggling, and...well, lets just say that I the next morning, I made just shy of a mad dash back to my place to shower, change, wrap Jack's birthday gift and get to his party (I was still about an hour late, but still - not bad!!).
We've been seeing each other since then. For the first month-ish, we were sort of feeling each other out, not trying to make things too serious, just in case it didn't quite work.  So just before my birthday, we decided that yes, what we have here is a relationship.  I was no longer single!! I was (and am) with somebody!!

We have our differences, but no major blowups. He's met my family, and they didn't scare him off. I've met his parents, and they seem to like me, too. :)  One of my aunts told me after meeting him, "Karen, you found another you!" and for the most part, I believe she's right.  We do have several things in common, and we both believe in similar things.  He makes me very happy.  He takes good care of me, without spoiling me rotten.  He will tell me "No," but not make me feel bad about it.  He actually LISTENS and PAYS ATTENTION.  He doesn't have some hidden drug or alcohol problem.  He has a good job, a good car, and a nice place to live.  He likes to snuggle with me, he gives me a hard time when I try to carry too much stuff by myself, he can hold intelligent conversations, and is playful and twisted.  He's wiped my tears away, and stops by my work for little visits.  He treats me better than I've been treated in...I don't even know how long.  He's the best thing that's happened to me in a long, long time.  Is he The One?  I'm not jumping the gun and saying yes or no. I'm not going to rush anything, and I'm pretty sure he isn't either. So we shall see. ;) <3

Hmm, let's see...what else...
Work.  Work continues to be busy as shit.  Last January, my boss announced a sales goal - he wanted to hit a million dollars by the end of the year.  If we hit the goal, he'd take all of us to Las Vegas for a big conference, on his dime.  Well, we hit that goal the beginning of December. We found out that our boss is giving us an option to NOT go to Vegas if we don't want to, and get money instead.  I'm not a gambler, so I'm opting to not go, and take the money instead.

My nephews.  Oh my Gods, my nephews. Matthew, that little squirt, was creeping at three months, and RUNNING by his first birthday in June. He is SUCH a boy - getting into everything, eating dead bugs out of the sliding door tracks and dog food out of Skippy's dish, in addition to eating just about anything else.  Got lumps and bumps from crashing into stuff because of his running around.  But he isn't talking.  He's making plenty of noise, but not actually talking yet.  Jack was talking before he walked, so we'll just wait it out.  We found out that Jack has some hearing problems (he was having problems with mid-tones), and has gotten hearing aids  He's doing much better.  The boys are changing so fast, and still amaze me so much.

Other than that, things have turned around, and I'm actually the happiest I've been in a long, goddamned time.

And I deserve it.


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Jan. 29th, 2012 05:00 pm (UTC)
"Karen, you found another you!"

This may not work for everyone or be what everyone wants, but when you find another you, someone who becomes your best friend as well as lover, there is nothing better in the universe.

I hope it grows into "the one" for you both.
Jan. 29th, 2012 07:18 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Perseus! That means a lot! ;)
Jan. 29th, 2012 09:21 pm (UTC)
So glad I bumped into you at Birka yesterday! I am so happy for youse guys!! :D
Jan. 29th, 2012 10:59 pm (UTC)
Glad to see you happy. And yes, you do deserve it!!
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